C of I alumna fights against relationship violence

College of Idaho alumna Pamela Cathey '04 has dedicated her life and career to preventing violence. As the founder and CEO of A Frog in the Pot at C of I as well as the Institute for the Prevention of Relationship Violence at Buena Vista University in Iowa, Cathey works hard to create awareness of an issue that is prevalent in society, yet often goes overlooked or undetected.

This spring, Cathey hopes to raise awareness of violence in the Treasure Valley through an advance release of Voices of Hope Breaking the Silence of Relationship Violence, a performance based on her forthcoming book of the same title. The event is set for 6:30 p.m. May 10 inside the Langroise Center on the C of I campus in Caldwell. Tickets cost $50 and include a coffee and dessert reception immediately following the performance. There also is a $500 sponsorship package available that includes four tickets, a limited edition copy of the book and an exclusive reception with the College’s Board of Trustees at 5:30 p.m.  Reservations are required and may be made by contacting Kelly Gibbons at (208) 249-8962 or [email protected].

“I had just left a violent relationship when I came to The College of Idaho to finish a novel,” Cathey said. “The process of working with the amazing professors helped me come to terms with the violence in my life. Since then, I have dedicated my career to this issue because it affects our society at every level, but many people find it hard to talk about.  Our work focuses on a proactive, preventative way of dealing with this issue in our culture.”

Cathey in 2000 started A Frog in the Pot, a non-profit organization dedicated to preventing violence. With the support of students and the Board of Trustees, she relocated A Frog in the Pot to the College and also established the Women’s and Men’s Center, which provides advocacy and a 24/7 trauma response line inside McCain Student Center. Voices of Hope, co-authored by Cathey and Dr. Wind Goodfriend, is an anthology of women and men who have experienced relationship violence and emerged as stronger, more compassionate human beings. It is set for nationwide release this fall. The book cover was designed by C of I graphic design instructor Michael Capell, with illustration by C of I student Reinaldo Gil.

“I hope this event and the Voices of Hope initiative will inspire hope and motivate people to get involved in preventing violence in all of its forms,” Cathey said.

Cathey is working on two more books: Before the Boil: The Warning Signs of a Potentially Violent Relationship and the novel Those Who Will Not Break. She lives in Eagle with her husband and daughter.

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